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The Rambling Rector

With Fr. Eric Zolner

The Kingdom of God belongs to such as these

9/21/2017

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Years ago I had a woman approach me after a Sunday morning service and ask, "Don't these young people know that we have a place for their children?"  I replied, "Yes, they do.  That place is right here worshipping with their parents."  I was't being snarky.  Nevertheless, this comment is symptomatic of what I see as a huge problem in the 21st Century Church.  We are silo-ing ourselves to death!  Many churches today operate on what I like to call a "silo mentality" of ministry.  You come into church and are immediately placed in a group with other people just like you, where everything is custom designed for your little niche.  Our favorite group to separate out is the children.  Of course, every church should have an exciting children's program with an active Sunday school and an inviting nursery.  But we should always strive to make worship a family event.
It drives me nuts when I see churches that have Sunday school for children and teens during the worship service.  The rationale is that we need to have something interesting for the young people while their parents are taking a break from them and worshipping God.  The problem we run into when we do this is that we teach children and teens that corporate worship is not for them.  And then we are shocked when they stop going to church after graduating from high school.  But why should we be surprised?  We've spent their entire lives telling them that grown up church is not for them, so they are simply doing as they have been taught.

But true worship must be intergenerational.  That means that on Sunday mornings, we should be able to hear a baby crying and a hearing aid screeching at the same time.  All human beings, and especially children, learn through imitation.  Our children will learn how to worship and praise God by watching us.  It is also through corporate worship that they learn what it means to be a part of a community of believers.  We cannot expect our children to have good oral hygiene as adults if we don't develop good brushing habits in them at a young age, and the same can be said for worship.  If we want to teach them well, we need to start them young.

Now I'm not saying that we need to get rid of our nurseries.  Infants and toddlers can get fussy, and it is always good to have a nursery available for tired parents and cranky babies. A church nursery should be an option, but never a requirement.  If a church will not let your children worship with you, no matter what age they are, you need to find a different church.

All of that being said, it is also important to note that a church service is not Romper Room.  Just as I've seen churches that ban children from worship, I've seen others that simply allow the kids to roam free during the service, making noise and being disruptive.  While this may seem "welcoming," it is not helpful.  So, some tips regarding public worship for parents with children:

  1. Do what makes you comfortable.  Just as it is not a requirement to put your children in the nursery, it is also not a requirement to bring them into the service with you.  The options are available, but the parents should always have the final say.  Parents should never feel like they are being forced to do something that they don’t want to do.
  2. Ease younger children in.  If your child isn’t ready to sit through the service, perhaps you can bring them in for communion.  Once they are comfortable in that setting you can start bringing them in after the sermon.  We tend to adapt better to change when it comes in stages, so don’t feel like your children have to sit through the entire service right away. 
  3. If your child can read, your child can worship.  The beauty of Anglicanism is that our liturgy is predictable and participatory.  Resist the urge to let your older children color or read a book during the service.  Help them to follow along.  Explain to them what is happening and why it is important.  Teach them that we stand to sing and praise, kneel to pray, and sit to listen.  Let them know that they are a participant in the liturgy, not just a spectator.
  4. Silence is golden.  While there are ample opportunities to talk during worship (e.g. responses, prayers, hymns, etc.), there are also times when it is appropriate to listen quietly and respectfully.  Help your children to be quiet and listen.  Encourage them to pay attention to the sermon and ask them questions about it on the way home.  Now we understand that children, especially younger ones, can get fussy.  That is OK.  A little noise here and there never hurt anyone and it is a good reminder that all generations are welcome in worship.  However, if children become disruptive it is perfectly acceptable to remove them from the service until their fussiness has subsided.
  5. Let your children serve.  By virtue of our baptisms, we are all ministers of the church.  Worship is not simply about what we get out of it, but what we put into it as well.  Look for places where you children can serve in worship.  Consider serving as an usher with your children.  Allow them to join you as part of the hospitality ministry.  Teens are encouraged to serve as acolytes and lectors or to sing in the choir.  The more your children are an active part of the worship experience, the more they will get out of it.

Whitney Houston once sang that children are our future, but I was never really a fan of that song.  I believe that children are our present.  So the next time you see that family come into church with all of those little kids, don't roll your eyes.  Instead, thank God that his church is for all generations at all times.  And then take a minute and learn the kids' names.  Introduce yourself.  Talk to them.  Encourage them.  Let them know that you are happy to see them.  For the Kingdom of God belongs to such as these.
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Clifton Snow
9/21/2017 12:33:20 pm

My Grandparents took me to church. Every time I take communion I can still feel their presence.

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Warren Gene Campbell
9/21/2017 02:30:50 pm

I am with you on this entry. There are also special emphasis and times- other than the worship times- when inter-generational activity can happen in the church- like during the summer a specially crafted series of Sunday school lessons that all ages can participate. In our Saturday night church before the sermon we broke into inter-generational groups and had a couple discussion question related to the topic/theme of the service.. At first it was stiff but as weeks went by all ages were working together and appreciating each other.

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